Learning to Control our Reactions with ADD and ADHD

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Image courtesy of David Castillo Dominici / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

People with ADD and ADHD love getting the last word in during a disagreement. It is in our DNA. This can escalate situations to a point of no return. Many of my clients have difficulty with this concept, but my client Stacy takes it to new heights.

She’s at a prominent high school in Chicago and will engage in every negative situation where it causes her to shut down. Plus, she almost creates confrontational situations…shooting first and asking questions later. It’s as if she’s always looking for a fight.

I’ve been working with her on picking and choosing her moments. As she needs to learn, we only have so much bandwidth and need to not get engaged in everything. It’s us that loses at the end of the day when we fight every battle. It took me many years to recognize this fact.

Stacy has been getting better and actually takes pride in her avoiding situations. The key is to pick and choose how we react to certain situations. If you treat every moment and issue like it’s a big deal, you’ll burn out quite quickly. It is important to think through things before reacting. While this seems like common sense, for someone with ADD/ADHD, it is not as easy as it seems. That is why I recommend the Internal Pause Button. It helps us to think through something before reacting.

For more information on my ADD, ADHD and Executive Functioning coaching, please visit www.adhdcoachchicago.com. To learn more information about some of the other services I provide, please visit www.carrolleducationalgroup.com and www.iepexperts.com. I can be found on Twitter at ADHDEFCoach. You can also find me on Facebook and Tumblr. My good friend and fellow ADD/ADHD Coach Tara McGillicuddy invites me as a regular guest on ADD/ADHD Support Talk Radio. Tara does many wonderful things and you should check out her website here. Feel free to email me at jonathan@adhdefcoach.com or call 773.888.ADHD (2343) with any additional questions.

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