ADD, ADHD and Executive Functioning Coaching Moment…Blaming the Professional

Image courtesy of Ambro /

Image courtesy of Ambro /

I’ve been working with the Jones family for around four months. I’ve been working with the family’s youngest daughter. She’s seen many top professionals in the Chicagoland Area. A common pattern with this family is to blame the professional, not the situation.

This has been a very difficult family; appointments were missed, child was belligerent, mother was selectively involved, father didn’t care, etc. When the daughter would come, she was anything but engaged. While I do not want to give up on a client, it was my belief that it would be best for us to go our separate ways. Let’s just say this didn’t go over very well. I became another professional in a long-list of professionals to be blamed.

I advised the family to seek more of traditional therapy. I felt that the needs were so extensive that someone needed to really help this family see the bigger picture. Instead of trying any style of help, there was a built-in resistance that blamed any professional for the concerns at hand.

I always advise perspective new clients that if I do not think I can help, I’ll point him or her in a different direction. I like to earn my money for doing my job, so I’m always honest. I know that this is how I make a living, but I never want a client to feel that I’m not providing a valuable service. My advice is to be the same way as a client. If it doesn’t seem like a fit, then find something that works for you. Getting the right kind of help is most important.

For more information on my ADD, ADHD and Executive Functioning coaching, please visit To learn more information about some of the other services I provide, please visit and I can be found on Twitter at ADHDEFCoach. You can also find me on Facebook and Tumblr. My good friend and fellow ADD/ADHD Coach Tara McGillicuddy invites me as a regular guest on ADD/ADHD Support Talk Radio. Tara does many wonderful things and you should check out her website here. Feel free to email me at or call 773.888.ADHD (2343) with any additional questions.

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