Are Children & Teenagers with ADD & ADHD Immature?

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Image courtesy of David Castillo Dominici / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

The answer to this question is a resounding YES. But it doesn’t mean that he or she is damaged or bad, it means that he or she is less mature. My experiences with clients and from personal experience has taught me that expectations have to be realistic with clients. Understanding that almost all of my clients come from a less-mature place helps the process.

Why does this happen? That is where the conversation will get a bit more complicated. It is my opinion that young people with ADD and ADHD work very hard to keep up with other peers. That being the case, there’s just too much that he or she has to do to be age appropriate across the board. The concept of working harder or grow up aren’t as easy for us ADD and ADHD folks as one would think. So keeping everything in perspective really helps the process.

My advice to any parent or interested party dealing with this concept is to be patient and understanding. Instead of assuming that a child or adolescent gets it, work under the assumption that he or she doesn’t quite connect the dots. Remember, you’re not lowering expectations but you’re helping the individual stay up with everyone else with a little more support.

My good friend and fellow ADD/ADHD CoachTara McGillicuddy invited me as a guest on ADD/ADHD Support Talk Radio discussing medication as an intervention for ADD and ADHD (click here). It is also available on iTunes as a Podcast (click here). Tara does many wonderful things and you should check out her website here.

For more information on my ADD, ADHD and Executive Functioning coaching, please visit www.adhdcoachchicago.com. To learn more information about some of the other services I provide, please visit www.carrolleducationalgroup.com and www.iepexperts.com. I can be found on Twitter at ADHDEFCoach. You can also find me on Facebook and Tumblr. My good friend and fellow ADD/ADHD Coach Tara McGillicuddy invites me as a regular guest on ADD/ADHD Support Talk Radio. Tara does many wonderful things and you should check out her website here. Feel free to email me at jonathan@adhdefcoach.com or call 773.888.ADHD (2343) with any additional questions.

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  1. […] experience has taught me that younger people with ADD/ADHD are less mature than his or her peers. Does that mean that he or she will remain that way? Not at all. Time and experience helps the […]

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